“If I can’t do it, you can too” says Sara Kroos, a Dutch female comedian.
Many people benefit from beliefs about what we can’t do. That’s how professions pop up, because if groups of people believe they can’t put a table together, you simply need a carpenter.
Even if you believe you are capable of doing it, but you think you don’t have time, energy, the right space. Then you’ll be needing a professional as well.
That’s how we help each other, that’s how we create space for someone with a certain talent … or with the guts to do it.
Yes Guts, as partially we fool ourselves and veer the other way. The list with reasons why we can’t do IT is getting longer when years, even days go by. That’s a way of trying to be in control.
The list with conditions under which we can ‘go for it’, is also getting longer. To calm ourselves we call that ‘you need to be able to set boundaries’, ‘we need preconditions’, ‘it’s important to know what you stand for’, ‘it’s good to be confident and express that’ etc. All true, and it can be a good sales trick to keep ourselves away from an important step to take.
Such a list gives a secure feeling or a clear framework within IT is going to happen. It helps you focus which is clarifying.
Then, why do we get stuck sometimes? We started off so great with this idea and then motivation fades away?
- Because during the process we forget about or lose connection with our intention, motive or starting point.
- Or because we think too small, based on the fear of failure and the fear of people ‘seeing us through’. Bottom line, we often think we’re not good enough, and that MUST NOT go public.
- Or because it is said, for years, that a certain method is the only way to
and you’ll start believing it (it sounds reasonable, you know). And then you’re not open anymore to see other options.
Those frames, boundaries or that structure stop(s) helping you to focus at a certain point. We start focussing on the frames instead and then you’re held captive in an invisible web.
Within science researchers need to work with preconditions and a framework to determine the scope of the research. Scientists say that a really good scientist operates for 90% from his intuition while doing research. In this way they create space for coincedence. Because if we believe we are looking for A, including its proof, the best discoveries are done by chance. We weren’t looking for it, but there was enough room to let it happen.
So the question you may ask yourself repeatedly:
Are/is the framework, structure, preconditions, boundaries, reasons, ‘golden’ rule (still) at the service of your intention, motive or starting point? Do they both offer focus and space for the unexpected?
If you start sighing, it feels tough, hard, uninspired, as a dense fog; your stomach, neck, shoulder, head starts aching etc. Look again at what’s it about in your core. Right through or beyond all the rules, thoughts, beliefs and boundaries.
Too hard? Think about the quote of Sara Kroos: ‘If I can’t do it, you can too’. Act like all those barriers aren’t there, you’re just allowing them to settle down in your mind, that means you can decide to cut them loose as well.
This goes beyond ‘useful’ or ‘handy’, it’s also a boost for your creative force. For magic. That’s why we’re here. To CREATE! And give birth to humans and ideas. That goes from art till irrigation systems and so much more. And having the space to develop yourself, gaining new insights, surprising, unexpected results. That’s absolutely magical!
That’s how we take the next step, personally, but also with our colleagues, and… our planet.
Amen to that 🙂